"Why Is This Happening To Me?"
Recognizing Abuse
Some people have trouble recognizing that they are being abused. Recognizing abuse may be
especially difficult for someone who has lived with it for many years. A person might think
that it's just the way things are and that there's nothing that can be done about it.
People who are abused might mistakenly think they bring it on themselves by misbehaving or
by not living up to someone's expectations.
Why Does It Happen?
There is no one reason why people abuse others, although there are some factors that seem
to make it more likely that a person may become abusive. Growing up in an abusive family,
for example, can teach someone that abuse is a way of life. Fortunately, though, many people
who grow up in abusive families realize that abuse is not acceptable and are able to break
patterns of abuse.
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On a national television show, a man who was trying to overcome verbally
abusive behaviors said, "When my partner has a different opinion from me,
I feel attacked." This gives us a clue to an abuser. Love is not wishing
you the best and wishing you the power and strength to have your own
personal freedom. Through the eyes of the abuser, even your own opinions
are seen as opposition.
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What Are the Effects of Abuse?
If someone is abused, it can affect every aspect of that person's life, especially self-esteem.
How much abuse damages a person depends on the circumstances surrounding the abuse, how often
and how long the abuse occurs, the age of the person who was abused, and lots of other factors.
You can escape the situations and circumstances that are standing in the way of being the
vibrant you that I know you are. Learn how to overcome the obsticles that enter your life,
and become a new you!
Relationships
The various forms of abuse and control is present in all sorts of relationships. From the school
ground, to the work place, forms abuse have no boundries.
Read this quick article on the 'Classic Signs And Symptoms Of Spousal Abuse'.
Check out Marriage Mistakes, or
the Rules For A Happy Life,
and other online articles.
Men are not abusive because they have a problem with anger,
they have chronic anger because they are abusive.
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Abuse And Control
Abuse and Control comes in many forms, some are
hard to spot and some are not. But don't be mistaken, all forms of abuse are damaging and cause
lasting affects.
Verbal abuse,
is one form that is difficult for the outsider to see because verbal abuse takes place behind
closed doors so it is done in private.
Emotional abuse is almost always
misunderstood because to the onlooker there are no visible signs, and there are no symptoms.
Control is a form of abuse used by
the abuser to keep the victim in line and so that the abuser is in 'charge'. Control is
almost always accompanied by Bullying
and Anger.
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